Day 4 - Knowing when to just listen...

This is by far the toughest task to date and one I still struggle with. Men and women are wired differently. Guys are by nature trouble shooters (and sometimes trouble makers) and "fixers". We see something broken or in need of fixing and we try to fix it.

-a burnt out light bulb, new light bulb screw it in
-a broken toy, superglue and move on
-a flat tire, replace with spare an drive on
-a screw loose, tighten it (yes, we have lots of these)

Simple right? No, what I have learned girls aren't like that. Sometimes they just want you to listen to their situation, be understanding, not speak; yet just allow them to vent. I know, I fail at this often, but am really trying harder. Knowing when this time arises is the hardest part. So guys, when she comes home flustered, upset, and red faced... slow it down and just hear her out.... nod your head yes in agreement and dont try to "fix" anything.

Extra Points: As she's coming down off the episode, begin pouring her a glass of her favorite wine, or tell her that today, you'll finish the dishes and go turn on Housewives of some far off County; let her unwind a bit, it will help you in the long run.

Summary Tip #4: Listen and don't try to fix it....

Big Reward for this one:

A growler of your favorite local craft brew - today's recomdenation 512 Brewing Co. - Black IPA, found at the Whip In just south of downtown Austin TX on I-35, well done....